Deciding to separate, or even thinking about it, can be full of doubt, fear and guilt. Divorce counseling helps you decide with a clearer mind and, if you choose to separate, move through it with as little harm as possible.
Understanding it
Divorce counseling has two main parts: before the decision and after it. Discernment Counseling, developed by William Doherty, is a short-term approach for couples where one partner leans toward separating and the other is unsure, helping them choose a clearer path. Research also shows that children's adjustment after divorce depends more on the level of conflict between parents than on the separation itself.
When to reach out
- You're unsure whether to stay or leave
- One of you has decided to separate
- You're going through the divorce process
- You're worried about the effect on your children
- After divorce you're struggling with grief, anger or loneliness
- You need to co-parent after separating
Evidence-based approaches
Discernment Counseling
Helping clarify the choice between continuing the relationship with therapy, separating, or taking time to think.
Co-parenting after separation
Reducing conflict, building shared rules and protecting children from parental disputes.
Individual support after separation
Processing the loss of the relationship, rebuilding identity and starting again.
How sessions work
Hearing each person's perspective
Clarifying options and consequences
Making an informed decision
Planning the transition and for the children
Frequently asked questions
Will the counselor try to talk us out of divorce?+
No. The goal is an informed decision, not a particular outcome.
How do we tell our children about the separation?+
This is one of the main topics in sessions and is planned according to the children's ages.
Does this counseling cover legal matters?+
No. It is psychological counseling; for legal matters you should consult a lawyer.
To begin, simply book a session.
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This page is for educational purposes and is not a substitute for a professional assessment. If there is immediate danger, violence or a crisis, contact your local emergency services.